You don’t have to a therapist to agree that a personality introduction is typical for us humans. Its factors consist of skills, capabilities, intellect, flexibility, contentment, and social involvement. With all these things we thought are essential often make us forget about one thing – knowing ourselves. That is because it is our nature to pay too much attention to everything around us. With that uncalled for attention towards other things that seem a little off, it leads us to pay less attention to ourselves. But how can we judge ourselves? How can we determine who we are? How can we know how far we can become?
Is It Dependent On The Quality Of Life?
There is a belief that the quality of our lives is mostly determined by how we carry ourselves around the public. There is the a concern on what type of clothes should we wear, what kind of job should we take, what kinds of food should we eat, what characters of people should we hang out, what model of car should we park outside, what representation of home should we live in, and so on. It is often about status and achievement. But honestly, that is not entirely important. Instead, it is about the capacity of happiness and fulfillment we can obtain from unfortunate instances that we cannot control. It is about knowing how far we are willing to take risk, sacrifice, and make amends to the betterment of the situation. We believe that everything that happens in our lives is from the consequences of the things we do. Perhaps, it is. We can set impossible goals for our happiness. But that claim does not entirely support the totality of understanding what makes us who we are. Our status and quality of life mean little to less than nothing. Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC used to say, “Happy people do things differently. They make their emotional wellbeing a priority and practice daily and weekly habits that help them create joy, happiness and satisfaction in their lives.”
Can We Know Ourselves Through Our Action And Words?
The process often used to determine oneself is through actions and words. “Harsh words are just as damaging whether they come from someone else or whether they come from you,” says licensed psychologist Cindy T. Graham, PhD. People judge each other with how they act and respond according to mild and complicated situations. There is this mentality that those people who share and help others are the good ones. And those who do not lend a hand are the bad ones. Same goes to the utilization of words. Those people who often talk, curse, and say mean things get viewed as evil persons, while those individuals who often choose their words appropriately gets perceived as educated and well-mannered ones. Yes, both cases don’t seem to contradict the logic of knowing someone through impression. However, it is not often the case. Not all people who do good things in front of others are good people. And not all those individuals who talk too much impoliteness are all terrible people. Everything is a matter of looking through everyone else’s other side of the story.
Can Our Choices And Decisions In Life Determine Who We Are?
In most instances, our choices and decisions in life matter most. Whether it is about sticking into a belief that others do not agree upon, or staying true to a crooked principle that no one value. “If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. said. Either way, we end up creating a verdict as to how we see things around us. But in determining the kind of persons we are, our life choices and decisions do not entirely represent the whole perception of what can we become. Instead, it is both the mistakes and results of the choices we make. Everything lies in the ability to face and conquer the consequences of the decisions we chose, whether it is right or wrong. We can never tell and make everyone agree that we are competent individuals. That is because we live in imperfections. We can never imply that what we do poorly is just the result of emotional and mental struggle. No one will believe it and will genuinely picture it only as an excuse.
So How Can We Know Ourselves?
The truth is, knowing ourselves is genuinely hard. That is because every time we experience something in our lives, we often change our perception. We learn through the process of getting hurt. We become engaged when we are down and become weak when we are alone. We start changing views when there is a change in our environment. We see things differently every day. There is no consistency in knowing. But fortunately, we are aware of who we are and what we can become. Every one of us has an idea of how much we can be willing to become someone we are supposed to be.